Do you have a highly sensitive child?

What is a highly sensitive person? High sensitivity is a form of neurodivergence that is gaining in recognition and popularity. An HPS is just that – highly sensitive. Their ability to tolerate sensory information and emotions is smaller than others, leading to overwhelm. A highly sensitive person has a finely tuned nervous system that can prime them for anxiety and stress. Without positive coping skills, this sensitivity can be overwhelming and lead to a host of behavioral issues in childhood and beyond. With knowledge, understanding, and positive coping skills, sensitivity can be a superpower! Although navigating the challenges of sensitivity can be difficult, your child’s sensitivity can wield many gifts including creativity, empathy and even intuition.

Many adults are becoming aware of and owning their sensitivity, gaining coping skills, and thriving. Children are vulnerable to their environments as their brains, bodies and nervous systems are constantly growing and changing. They have little control over their daily activities, foods they eat and clothing they wear. An HSP child is even more vulnerable to the environment as exposure to even small amounts of stimulus may be too much.

To a neurotypical adult, the sensitive child might seem over reactive, overemotional, and dramatic. To the NT parent, the child is having an absolute meltdown because he doesn’t want to wear the shirt that was picked out for him. To the child, their physical body has become so incredibly uncomfortable, that it causes stress hormones to spike. In turn, the child’s nervous system is activated, and they are flooded with emotions that they don’t know how to process. Screaming ensues.

To a sensitive child, the world can seem entirely overwhelming. They may recognize that they respond differently to the world than their peers and not understand why.  Arming them with knowledge, tools for self-care, and nervous system regulation at an early age can change the trajectory of their lives so they can learn how to use sensitivity as a superpower early, without having to go through so much heartache. So how do you know if your child is highly sensitive? Here are some signs that might indicate your child has a finely tuned nervous system and might need some additional tools to thrive in our crazy world.

Sensitivity is threefold – physical, emotional, and energetic. Physical sensitivity affects the 5 senses: touch taste, sound, smell, and sight. When any of these senses start to get overwhelmed, an HSP (highly sensitive person)’s nervous system detects a threat and goes into hyperdrive.

Here are some signs physical signs that your child might be an HSP:

·      Allergies to perfumes and other synthetic fragrances in detergents, scented candles, and even dishwashing soap

·      An aversion to certain types of fabrics or shapes of clothing

·      Complaints that certain environments, or video games or television is too loud

·      Multiple food allergies

·      Proprioception or tactile sensitivity

·      Meltdowns after time spent in big crowds or places with bright or fluorescent lights

Emotional sensitivity can look like:

·      Crying easily

·      Having feelings hurt easily

·      Bursts of anger

·      Feeling overcome when watching television and movies

·      Feeling a high level of empathy for animals, stuffed animals, or other people

·      A sense of not belonging

·      Asking deep questions, or having deep thoughts

·      “an old soul”

Energetic sensitivity shows up in some children and adults as:

·      A strong sense of overwhelm in crowded places

·      Connection to spirituality

·      Having an increased sense of imagination

·      Possessing “second sight” or psychic abilities

·      Heightened creative abilities  

If you think you or your child might be a highly sensitive person, don’t worry! It’s not a mental illness, and it doesn’t mean anything is wrong. It just means that your child might need a little extra care navigating the world. Little changes in the household can decrease sensory overload. Using less chemical cleaners and fragrances in the home, dimming the lights, and making time for “chilling out” in between activities can give your child’s nervous system a much needed break. For more tips on decreasing sensory overload, check out this blog post: Tips for decreasing sensory overload.