the shift out of victimhood

There is a powerful shift that takes place when we no longer identify as a victim. As we discussed in our earlier chapters on the transformative power of language and affirmations, using intentional language to describe ourselves can break bonds and cycles, no matter how strong they are or how much of a hold they seem to have on our lives. This identification as a survivor puts you in a powerful place, where rather than being victimized, you are on the other side of your experience. You have moved through the suffering, into a new place, where you are safe from danger. This language is definitively empowering.  

 To further the concept of non - attachment, the next step would be to then surrender the desire to identify with the term “survivor.” and let go of the attachment to your trauma story entirely.

 I know this seems like a daunting and perhaps crazy task. “How could I let go of this horrible thing that has defined me and shaped my life?” I ask myself this same question. It does not mean it is not significant; it is merely a concept to play with to see how attached you are to your identity as a victim. Shifting your awareness from victimhood to survivor is crucial in shifting from fear to love. Releasing your attachment to your survivor story is a great leap beyond this initial shift. You can only let it go when you are ready. When you sense resistance to the idea of surrendering your attachment to being a survivor, ask yourself why. Why are you afraid to let go of your story? How is the story of what you have survived serving you? What do you stand to gain in letting it go? Ask yourself these questions with gentle curiosity with total absence of judgment.

From Supernatural Recovery: An Empath's Guide to Overcoming Trauma & Addictiont